Tuesday, February 28, 2012

My Love Language

Have you ever stopped to think about why you are with the person that you are with? Often I ponder why I'm with my hubby and how different (and worse :) my life would be without him. I often hear from friends that their spouse said this or did that and I just have to thank God every day that I'm not in their place.

Bobby and I have by no means "the perfect marriage". We have our tiffs but they are pretty few and far between. I am so thankful for this. I'm grateful that I have a wonderful hubby that comes home to me day in day out, love me and our boys unconditionally, and would do just about anything that we asked of him (within reason of course!).

I love that Bobby knows my love language and he keeps my love tank filled to the top!

Don't know what "A Love Language" is?

In a nutshell a love language is a primary way in which love is interpreted and expressed. There are 5!  They are Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.

If you read Gary Chapmans Book, "The 5 Love Languages" he says that each person has primarily one love language and that interestingly enough their significant other does not share the same one.

I was pretty surprised to read this. When reading through the 5 love languages I identified myself significantly with 3 of them. I find that I need to hear "I love you" probably more than most people. I also need to be with Bobby as much as possible! He's my best friend and there are tons of times that I will be out with other people and find myself thinking "I wish Bobby were here too...". The last one is acts of service. I find it soo wonderful when he does silly stuff like empty the dishwasher for me. Just the thought of him sacrificing his morning time to do that for me before he rushes off to work just makes my heart sing!

If I had to guess Bobby would probably pick the same 3 as me! (haha, if I was to ask him he'd probably say physical touch :)

Because of our personalities I end up doing things like this for him...

I tend to try and reciprocate all that he does for me with Acts of Service of my own. I love to make him special meals that I know he loves especially if I know that he's had a long and difficult day. 

I know how much we appreciate each other and I'm hoping that our boys are witnessing our tangible love for each other. My hope for them is a future with wonderful wives who share their love to the fullest!

What is your love language??


The Anglin Family said...

I remember years ago when we first read this book- it was like aha!! I'm more of a quality time kind of person and S would tell you physical touch ha!:-)
We finished up a study in SS a few weeks ago about our personality types. I learned so much! Like why we marry our complete opposites..it was a fun study and neat to see it in a biblical perspective.

Jamie said...

I read that book too! It's awesome! I am acts of service, quality time, and gifts. :-)

Ashley said...

I just got this book on my kindle and started reading it. My hubby and I have very different languages of love. :) Just stopping by from Kerry's blog.

KERRY said...

Awww this was a beautiful post Hillary! I would have to agree with all your choices and would probably suggest my Bobby would also say physical touch hahaha
We are so alike my friend, right down to our husbands :)

ccc said...

I have never heard of this book, and now I am very intrigued and I think I am going to look into it. I do know that my husband and I are complete opposites :)

ccc said...

BTW That pie looks amazing!

Design by Small Bird Studios | All Rights Reserved